blameless, as the steward of God;
not selfwilled,
not soon angry,
not given to wine,
no striker,
not given to filthy lucre;
a lover of hospitality,
a lover of good people
sober,
just,
holy,
temperate;
Holding fast the faithful word so far as has been taught,
able by sound doctrine both to exhort and to convince the gainsayers.
And assuming that your pastor is quite good at all these things, Which is to say, "Boy did your congregation get a real gem!".
What sort of things about you and your family life that you would avoid sharing with this pastor.
I am thinking here of things of the sort that were they known of you, might "raise some eyebrows" or in the case of some of your fellow congregants, Might just blow those eyebrows off

I believe this may be an ideal audience to ask this question of, because there probably many here who suspect this is their situation and so long as this really great pastor and friend does not know, then He/She has plausible deniability. Of course there could be a lurking suspicion that the pastor might for various reasons feel compelled to take some action. I think that our departed naturist brother Jon Marc was adversely impacted by this when his pastor found out that he was a naturist living in a residential naturist park.
But please understand I am asking this question in a General sense and not a naturist sense per se! If one had such a topic that was not a matter of sin per se, but which might strike a large part of the congregation or possibly even the pastor as odd or questionable how would one handle that. Without limitation, let me suggest," what if you had a hot tub outdoors on your back deck and you and your wife had a penchant for having sex in the hot tub out under the stars but it was near impossible for anyone to see what you were doing but in your community such activity would be considered A DOWNRIGHT KINKY"! FETISH AT BEST or MAYBE EVEN DEEMED PERVERSE". How would you handle such a matter ?
DISCUSS THE MATTER WITH THE PASTOR

LEAVE HIM UNINFORMED SO THAT THERE IS PLAUSIBLE DENIABILITY

LET THE CAT OUT OF THE BAG AND LET THE CHIPS FALL WHERE THEY MAY

HOPE THE CAT NEVER GETS OUT OF THE BAG

OTHER

As you will remember, our now disceased brother and fellow naturist Jon Marc lost the opportunity to share his gift of singing praises in church and serving the congregation in that way unless he would change his way of life to conform to the majority's lifestyle, and he was not in a position to move, given his accomodations and finances as his health failed. He was given the choice of a false dichotomy of quit participating in services with your gift of singing, or get rid of your mobile accomodations in the naturist park to be allowed to continue your level of participation in the congregation.
So having used that as an example, please relate how and what you would choose to share with an otherwise excellent pastor if you suspected a chance for it to unnecessarily go very wrong.