Annie's Mailbox 9/9/09

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Annie's Mailbox 9/9/09

Postby robbbie » Wed Sep 09, 2009 3:32 pm

Dear Annie: I'm the mother of 11-year-old twins, "Jack" and "Jill." Jill is quite a tomboy. She's always been more interested in her brother's trucks than dolls, and I have given up trying to put a dress on her.
Jack and Jill spent last week with my husband's parents in Florida. Jill is their only granddaughter, and Grandma makes no secret that girls are "little princesses." My husband always defends our childrearing to his mother, but she refuses to accept our authority. Within minutes of their arrival, Grandma called to criticize me about Jill's boyish haircut. A few hours later, she called again about Jill's lack of a "proper" swimsuit. (We allow her to be shirtless whenever her brother is, especially since Gran's pool is enclosed and Jill is still undeveloped.)
I told Jill to placate her grandmother and wear a T-shirt. Grandma bought her a swimsuit that Jill hates and almost assuredly won't wear at home. Later, we heard about the lack of pajamas. Jill prefers to sleep in boxers like her brother. They still share a room at home.
I know Gran reads your column because she's always quoting your advice. Would you please tell her we don't live in Victorian England? Jill will adopt feminine ways when she's ready, and we don't appreciate Grandma's interference. It confuses Jill to have Grandma tell her what bad parents we are. — Mother of a Tomboy

Dear Mom: Grandma is overstepping her authority a bit, and under no circumstances should she badmouth you to the kids. Although we admire the flexible attitude you have toward childrearing, Grandma's concern is not without merit. Jill may be undeveloped, but it won't be for long. It's time she understood that a certain amount of modesty is necessary. No one, including Grandma, should be pushing her to be "feminine," but Jill should not be topless, and soon enough, she will require more privacy at home.
It would be best if you anticipated some of her needs before she has to ask.
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Re: Annie's Mailbox 9/9/09

Postby natman » Wed Sep 09, 2009 4:42 pm

I know that "Annie" means well, but why shouldn't a little girl swim topless (or bottomless or simly "less") if she wants to in the privacy of a backyard pool, particularly if her brother is accustomed to seeing her that way anyway? She'll have PLENTY of time to deal with the "accoutrements" of women's swim fashions when she gets a little older. Why rush things?

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Re: Annie's Mailbox 9/9/09

Postby jochanaan » Wed Sep 09, 2009 5:02 pm

So how do we write back to "Annie," and tell her there isn't any connection between being seen naked or topfree and being attacked or harassed? :roll:

I could only wish "Annie" would get together with "Dear Abby," whose attitude toward nudity and naturism is much more reasonable.
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Re: Annie's Mailbox 9/9/09

Postby lwrails » Fri Sep 11, 2009 6:00 am

It is simply amazing to me how "advice" columnist are sought out for guidnace.
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